How do I find LGBTQ-friendly therapy?

Not all therapists are equally knowledgeable or affirming of LGBTQ+ issues. Luckily, the internet has made it easy to do a lot of research on potential therapists before making an appointment.

One of the best and easiest ways to find LGBTQ-friendly therapy is online through a search engine like Mental Health Match or Psychology Today. These are tools that offer several different filters including insurance, gender identity, sexual orientation, transgender support and more.  You will find therapists in your area who specialize and have experience working with LGBTQ clients. Each therapist has their own profile with an about section where you can learn more about them and their practice. Find qualifications, specialties, treatment approach, client focus, issues, and financial information as well as contact information all on their page.

The Human Rights Campaign partnered with us to develop a tool to help you determine whether your therapist will be responsive to your LGBTQ+ identity—especially if you are also a person of color.

When looking for LGBTQ-friendly therapy, there are two areas to pay attention to:

  1. Client focus and specialties: Look for a therapist whose specialties reflect you and your needs. Consider clicking more or less areas of specialties to focus in on what you want to address in treatment and to get a longer or shorter list.
  2. Do additional research: You can learn a lot about therapists based on what they put online. Start with the profile to help narrow your search and then continue research online. Find out what makes each therapist unique and who may resonate with you. Along with finding therapist that explicitly talk about LGBTQ-related issues or even the specific issue you’re hoping to work through, look for other qualities that you think will help with the relationship. Ultimately, if this looks like a person you can trust, that’s a great start.

Most therapists will do a 15-20-minute phone interview so you can see if they are a good fit. Be sure and ask questions about any information you didn’t see on the web such as insurance and payment information, their qualifications, approach to helping and anything else you are curious about. Ask them about their training, knowledge and experience in working with the LGBTQ+ population. If you have questions about a specific issue now is the time to ask.

Additionally, some therapists run group therapy sessions for specific communities and issues. For example, one such page lists “group therapy for gay men.” Check for groups to find community and support from other people going through the same things as you.

If you aren’t having any luck finding an LGBTQ-affirming therapist near you, look for a distance therapy option. Some therapists offer their through the phone or online video support. See if there is a LGBTQ+ community center in your area that can point you in the right direction.

  1. What kinds of qualities would you like from a therapist, and how can a therapist help you?

  1. What negative thought are you struggling with?

  1. What negative thought are you struggling with?

  2. Where does this negative thought come from?

    Negative thoughts usually come from our past experiences. What happened in your life that makes you believe this thought?

  3. If your friend was dealing with the same negative thought, what would you say to help them feel more hopeful?

    Then, imagine your friend telling you this more hopeful thought.

  4. What do you need to say or do so you can truly believe the more hopeful thought?

    What do you need to let go of so you can feel better? What do you need to say to convince yourself or focus on the positive?

Additional Search Tools:

The Healthcare Equality Index– The HEI evaluates healthcare facilities’ policies and practices related to the equity and inclusion of their LGBTQ+ patients, visitors, and employees.

LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory


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